A soaked day at Iguazú Falls reminded me that delight is a real reason to choose a trip. I talk about waterfalls, fried manioc, small wants, and what happens when we stop shrinking what we want into the most sensible version.
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A family trip to Nigeria showed me that the self-trust I built through solo travel doesn’t disappear when other people are around. It came with me into family rhythms, an Uber grocery run with my sister, and one bottle of water I ordered when I meant to order twelve.
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On a Sunday morning in Olomouc, I had three hours before my train and three real choices, and I sat at a table with purple chairs and realized this was the practice. Between where you are now and the solo trip you keep thinking about, there are hundreds of small decisions you haven’t been making for yourself. This episode is about those decisions.
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A Sufi teacher in India told me in my mid-twenties that I was watching my life pass by from a train window. Kellie Stirling of Talking About Midlife interviewed me, and we started from the very beginning, long before I was a solo traveller. We also talk about the difference between searching for yourself and meeting yourself.
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I went to the riverbank in Okazaki to see the cherry blossoms, and when I got close enough to see that most of the buds were still closed, I went from being in the experience to measuring it. That same measuring keeps a lot of women from booking a trip at all. This episode is about the question “why should I?” and why I have beef with it.
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I was standing on the balcony at my parents’ house in Canada in September when a school bus went by, and I felt relief. For fourteen years, September was when I went back. This episode is about leaving a job I had wanted without ever feeling ready, and why that’s alright.
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I had heard about Kandy, Sri Lanka for over 20 years, so I booked a full-day private tour even though I was tired. When it started to rain and everyone rushed to the next stop, I found a seat and read a chapter of my book. This episode is about what makes a solo trip worth it when nobody else is there to say that’s enough for today.
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On a bus in Laos, I needed the washroom and nobody knew when the next stop was, so I asked, and I heard people sigh with relief behind me. Earlier on that same trip, I had been shrinking without realizing it. This episode is about how being capable can make women over 40 disappear, and what I noticed once I saw it.
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I’m recording this somewhere that still feels unfamiliar, and my instinct is to speed up and fill everything in. Instead, I’m slowing down enough to let my brain and body catch up with each other. This episode is about the gap between arriving physically and arriving emotionally, starting with the immigration queue in Colombo.
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In a shop in Oman, I was clearly next in line for chocolates, and someone who walked in after me was served first. After 40, a lot of women start noticing they aren’t seen the same way, through small moments that add up. This episode is about how travel makes that pattern impossible to ignore, and why that turns out to be useful.
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