decision making

You Can’t Afford a Solo Trip You Haven’t Priced

Most of us say “I can’t afford it” about a trip before we’ve ever worked out what it would actually cost. Jillian Johnsrud, author of Retire Often, has taken more than a dozen mini retirements, and she shows how pricing a trip line by line turns a someday into a real decision, whether you have a month or a week.

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Solo Travel Taught Me Mine and Ours Aren’t Opposites

A family trip to Nigeria showed me that the self-trust I built through solo travel doesn’t disappear when other people are around. It came with me into family rhythms, an Uber grocery run with my sister, and one bottle of water I ordered when I meant to order twelve.

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How to Plan a Solo Trip You’ll Actually Enjoy

There isn’t one right trip to find. The best afternoon I ever had in Osaka was a walk I chose and a table by a garden, nothing that would make a list. Planning a solo trip you’ll actually enjoy is less about logistics than design, and the key move is subtraction: take the shoulds off and build the trip around the woman who is actually going.

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The Decisions That Build a Solo Traveler Aren’t the Big Ones

On a Sunday morning in Olomouc, I had three hours before my train and three real choices, and I sat at a table with purple chairs and realized this was the practice. Between where you are now and the solo trip you keep thinking about, there are hundreds of small decisions you haven’t been making for yourself. This episode is about those decisions.

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Why Not? Stop Overthinking Solo Travel

I went to the riverbank in Okazaki to see the cherry blossoms, and when I got close enough to see that most of the buds were still closed, I went from being in the experience to measuring it. That same measuring keeps a lot of women from booking a trip at all. This episode is about the question “why should I?” and why I have beef with it.

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You Never Feel Ready to Travel Alone Before You Take The Trip (and that’s alright)

I was standing on the balcony at my parents’ house in Canada in September when a school bus went by, and I felt relief. For fourteen years, September was when I went back. This episode is about leaving a job I had wanted without ever feeling ready, and why that’s alright.

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It’s Hard to Leave, Even When You’re Ready to Go

Leaving a place can feel harder than arriving, even when you know you’re ready. I talk about the bus ride where I sat on the wrong side for the ocean, a ceremony at Koyasan, and how to trust yourself when a moment has already given you enough.

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