taking up space

How being competent makes women over 40 invisible

This episode is a reflection on what shows up when women travel alone in midlife: the excitement, the loneliness, the questions that don’t get resolved, and the pressure we feel to explain our choices. It’s not about copying someone else’s way of traveling, but about noticing what gets stirred when we see another woman living differently so that we can each choose what feels right for us.

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The Hidden Invisibility Women Over 40 Live With (And Why Travel Brings It to the Surface)

There was a moment in Oman last year. I was standing in a shop, waiting to buy chocolates, clearly there, clearly next. Someone else walked in and was served immediately. Nothing catastrophic happened. And yet I could feel the heat rise up in me, because I’ve been noticing this pattern for a while now, and…

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I Don’t Want to Eat Alone: Solo Dining Anxiety While Traveling

The discomfort around eating alone usually isn’t about the food. It’s about visibility. About being seen taking up space without a reason that makes sense to other people.

In this episode, I reflect on my earliest memory of eating alone, how solo dining has followed me across decades and countries, and why certain restaurants, and certain seats, can bring up more than we expect. What starts as a practical hesitation often reveals something deeper: questions about presence and whether we’re allowed to fully claim and enjoy an experience when it’s just for us.

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